A few weeks ago I met a Scottish guy at Enterprise car rental. He is pretty cool. Big arms, awesome accent and quite friendly. So I did the logical thing, I invited him and his fiance over for a BBQ and they came! Amazing I know.
He called me last night and cashed in on my offer to help them move house. I immediately went over because he's a cool guy, I had given him my word and we are trying to build friendships in St. Louis. My brother in-law came for a bit as well. Here is how the night went:
3 trips back and forth moving the big stuff.
Failed attempt to get the box springs up the stairs.
They have an "Adams Family" stair doorway thing that is truly something from a kids adventure movie.
He has an expensive plasma TV, sub and blueray player -- I was jealous.
I met 2 of their friends.
They talked about some colorful things.
Afterwards we drank beer until 1am in the morning. (I had 2 bottles of bud select)
I got to bed about 1.30am.
Why would I do this? Simple. People are AMAZING! People have been made by God for HIS fame. I want to connect with these random people so that they are not so random. I am paying the relational rent.
I pray that they get HUNGRY for God. I shared with them about my internship and Jubilee Church. The great thing is that I'm making friends and making friends of their friends. I love getting in on social networks. They are so fun. People are WORTH it.
One of my top 10 movies of all time is Operation Condor featuring Jackie Chan. It's a total guy movie. Lot's of hilarious martial arts fighting sequences. Recently I found the top 10 Jackie Chan stunts on YouTube (featured below) which gave me that nostalgic childhood adventure feeling -- kupow!
These stunts were MORE than incredible! They were life endangering, original and set Jackie apart in his field. They make you gasp!
It got me thinking. Am I innovating/risk taking, or just imitating because it's "safe"? Jackie Chan did not settle for safe. He pushed the boundaries. So, am I living a life for Jesus that puts him first, or just copies what others are doing? Will I only do things that feel safe?
Some challenge questions I am asking myself:
What theological convictions have I simply accepted and not sought God on myself?
Are there any other motives behind my leadership roles other than helping others and making God look BIG?
What am I afraid of?
What do I procrastinate about? Why?
Do I know WHY we do church the way we do? Do I know WHY others do it their way?
If you don't know I head-up ONEBLAZE, a Christian youth event for grades 7-12.
A few years ago I attended Newday, a Newfrontiers youth event in the UK, and it was AMAZING! The UK youth are doing something so BIG and so DANGEROUS for God that you can't help but be ruined by the vision.
Thousands of teens take on cities, camp out in local parks/race courses, and through local churches serve the community. The effect of all this? Many people find hope through faith in Christ and are added to the local churches, many youth become Christians at the Newday event and a generation of teenagers are transformed to live sacrificial lives for the sake of Jesus Christ -- who gave everything for them.
The message of Jesus is still changing the world today and you CANNOT stop it -- so you may as well join it.
My hope and prayer is that the youth of ONEBLAZE will do the same dangerous things. That our events, based in local churches and for the benefit of the communities around us will see great fruit in the lives of millions! I don't just want to see communities with fresh paint or cleaner yards. But I want to see people made right with God. To have the spiritual emptiness filled by Jesus.
Here is the promo video for Newday 2008. Please watch it and imagine what ONEBLAZE will be like. What an inspiration!
I just read this article by Vince Antonucci which reviews The Multiplying Church by Bob Roberts, a book I am currently reading. Bob Roberts takes his interns through 7 processors and Vince has identified 7 land mines he sees with a lot of church plants. His mines are in italics and my responses to each are bold. I tried to be as honest as I could:
Guys who are planting because they want to be the leader and do their own thing rather than feeling called. If that's you, you'll quit. I do want to be a leader, I think I am ok with not being THE leader, but there is a tug in me to take the lead -- this ties into an area of thinking I have in needing to be "right". I have heard from God about doing the Church Planting Internship and I have somewhat been groomed for leadership from a young age. I am aware that I have struggled with self-reliance a lot and self-promotion. God has spoken to me many times about how he opposes the proud, and gives grace to the humble. I need help from other leaders so that I fall back onto my calling and not make it about my ideas and strategy.
Guys who steal someone else's values because their church is successful, "so maybe we can capture some of their mojo!" I am not aware of myself having this problem. I tend not to want to copy things, but reformulate them or create things I get from intuition. Plus, I feel pretty strongly about my values. For church, I value intimate and celebratory worship, clear bible teaching, baptism in the Holy Spirit & spiritual gifts, creativity, excellence, smart strategy, etc... But, I do feel like my values need to mature more and be rooted in scripture, rather than just preference (my preference is greatly molded by my Newfrontiers upbringing)
Guys whose purpose is to start a "cool church" rather than win lost people to Christ and glorify God. I hate this mentality. It's stupid in my opinion. No cool or just "fun" church for me. I'm going for power -- I want the real deal! I want to transform society through communities of radical givers -- that's never cool or fun.
Guys who have a vision but don't share it concisely, passionately, and consistently. I have a vision for sure and I can get pretty passionate about it. But I do need to learn more skills in being concise and consistent. Do my mentors have any thoughts here?
Guys who have no strategy. They have a vision, maybe they pray, and they just hope/assume it's gonna happen. I have some steps in mind and I like coming up with strategy, but the key for me is to do it through a team. Right now, in the internship, I am building connections through social encounters (made another contact last night) and will aim to do some type of neighborhood event and look to launch an alpha (or something similar) out of all this. I always feel challenged about getting other people to really own the steps towards the vision. They own the vision, but not always the steps. This might be because I need to be more relaxed about the specifics of the steps or release people to do it their way and work with them. I feel this is something I do need to grow in. Sometimes I see the steps so clearly that I am inflexible with what others want to do.
Guys who do it all rather than developing layers of leadership in the church. I am fully convinced that more can be done together than apart. I am convinced that leader multiplication is a kingdom principle. I was recently challenged by the idea of having an Apprentice Leader. The key in that title is that the apprentice has to be apprenticed by someone -- a leader! I have already taken steps to be more purposeful about developing guys.
Guys who don't evaluate how they're doing. Maybe the worst thing that can happen is early success because it can lull us, if we don't do evaluation, into complacency. Doing a Church Planting Internship is all about evaluation. You try stuff, then you debrief and evaluate the process and your attitudes. I have a mentor and I just started meet weekly with another guy so I am in good relationships with guys who can challenge and evaluate me. Plus, I have developed a very extensive peer assessment tool that I will be mailing out to people here soon to get feedback and measure my growth. My only hope is that this evaluation continues as I plant out. It depends how far removed I will be from other leaders I am currently close to. This could be a challenge I face down the road.
It's been 20 days since my last post. The Church Planting Internship is continuing to be amazing simply because it's the most challenging thing we've ever done. We have about 40 active subscribers to our blog and I was wondering what our readers have learned over the the last 20 days? Please comment. Here is our journey:
Wentzville Preview Meetings Rick Hein has successfully completed 2 church preview meetings out in Wentzville and there are 3 more to go. We have learned:
This is an outside-in strategy, rather than an inside-out strategy. Rick has done a lot in the community to generate guests at these 5 monthly preview meetings before launch. The first Sunday had 55 guests, with a total of 109 people. Last Sunday had 17 guests. Rick will form a church launch team from visitors who display interest. This method allows a leader to launch a church faster and with larger numbers. It is opposite to building a small group and then launching a church from the group. There is nothing wrong with that approach but it can take a lot longer.
Jubilee Wentzville is not technically a new church, but rather a new location of an existing church. This is a genius approach to church planting because it means you can launch even faster and can facilitate growth better. For example, the original church already has a website, logo, staff policies, bank account, documents, resources, books, volunteers, charitable status, book keeping, secretaries, equipment, and the list goes on. Removing these practical elements for the leader frees them up to focus on vision, teaching/preaching, networking and building a community. Working smarter not harder!
Rick does a great job of making it easy for people to connect with the church. It is so important that guests are comfortable and that assimilating them is not cumbersome. Rick uses a communication card, placed on each chair with a pen, which has all kinds of options for people to select. He explains what the card is and asks people to fill it in and clearly sets the level of expectation of what will happen if people check certain boxes. One option on the card is "Get to know Jubilee". If checked, Rick invited guests into his home to personally connect with them and gauge their level of interest. This is a clear process to move guests into team players.
See a video slideshow of the first preview launch at the bottom of the post.
We Moved Downstairs Just over 2 weeks ago we moved to the downstairs apartment because, among other things, we desired easier stroller access. We have learned:
Connection to our neighbors is easier than ever. We can see who's about and what's happening because we are on the street level now. Love this neighborhood!
For example, I saw the mailman outside and after talking with him ended up praying for his feet to be healed of stress fractures. He really appreciated it. We met 5 more neighbors in the process of moving. I guess movement = connection and stagnation = disconnection.
God used the process of moving to bring out character issues in me. I was getting frustrated with the amount of time it was taking. I got frustrated that we missed our running group that week. I was thinking that my regular behavior, connecting with people in a running group, would mean I was being a good church planter who was in consistent interaction with the community. Idiot! Behavior does not determine identity. Identity determines behavior! I set unreasonable standards for myself. Chill pill.
Traveling: St. Joseph & Atlanta 2 weekends ago I traveled to Living Hope Church in St. Joseph Missouri with John Lanferman, Euan Crane and Curt Mccutchan to observe how John helps churches. Heather drove 10 hours to Atlanta with our 4 month old Jones to see her parents -- yes my wife is crazy! We learned:
We hate being apart. I especially hate it because a diet of pizza and beer is not the best for you. Thankfully I ate better on the trip than I did at home by myself.
John Lanferman is good at asking questions and helping church leaders identify where they are at and how to change.
Some top quotes from John are (paraphrased):
"You need to establish clear measurements so that you know when you have a win. You can't play basketball without any hoops. A lot of churches don't know if they are winning or losing and it's got to be more than numerical attendance -- that's just a small aspect if it".
"Nothing is sacred. You have to keep the goal in mind. Be ruthless in evaluation."
"You need to spend your money on people more than buildings. Buildings are important, but with a student ministry you wont see any return from it. So invest the money you have into a longterm strategy to develop leaders from your student work."
"The mission comes before the community."
Heather and I always learn from her parents whenever we spend time with them. Heather commented that they were training her just in the way they live.
Ozarks & Wet Door Hangers Last Thursday I spent a day at the Lake of the Ozarks praying with a group of church leaders. Then, I spent the next rainy day distributing door hangers in Wentzville. I learned:
It is SO important to gather with other men who share the same vision and talk about what's happening at our various scenes. I got seriously stirred about our mission together.
Johnny Privett, a church leader from Nashville TN, shared about the recent growth they had experienced through students. They sent a lot of Baptist kids to a Newfrontiers 20's conference and it totally changed their perspective of God.
I don't enjoy walking around in the rain, but I was happy to do it because we were distributing door hangers for the church launch and I was with Grant Barns. He has more excitement and energy than a supernova!
Freelance Work Last week I completed a small website. I learned:
I still love writing website code. I know that sounds geeky but there is something very rewarding about taking a beautiful design and making it functional.
I can still code complete websites using notepad. I realized I didn't have the latest version of Dreamweaver, so I hand coded it ALL in notepad. CSS layouts included.
God is providing work for us as an answer to prayer. We've taken a big step of faith and God is proving to be faithful.
Friendships I met this awesome Scottish guy and invited him and his fiancé over to grill out last night. We learned:
Meeting strangers and having them over is not always that hard.
People have the best stories and love to tell them. I know this mainly because I like to talk about myself a lot. I'm trying to ask more questions.
Everybody wants community. We hung out with these guys from 5:30-10:30pm because we WANTED to and they WANTED to. They didn't have to come around, they didn't even know us. Actually, I'd only met him 3 times. Total strangers, total fun and totally rewarding! I hope we hit a longterm friendship off with them.
This weekend we traveled to Chicago to visit Tim & Chloe Steinke who have been gathering people. Our friend Amie Fox flew in to join us. Our purpose was to observe what the Steinke's have been building, explore God's heart for the city and preach at their meeting Sunday night.
Their two precious kids ask the best questions about God. Quote from Jethro "Mommy, does God like jokes?"
Both Heather and I felt sick, Heather was really sick and in bed. The Steinke's and Adam & Kez prayed for us, and we worshiped together in their front room. We were both restored to health. God is so powerful!
Tim & Chloe engaged about 6 different people over the course of the weekend, while we were out and about, and invited them to Fusion. We were personally challenged by their boldness and proactivity in reaching people.
We met an 80+ year old man, John, who had planted 3 churches and pastored for over 40 years. He has written a number of books. What a legend and inspiration!
We drove through Chicago and checked out a few locations. What a city!
We went to the botanical gardens. Not so amazing this time of year, but still worth seeing some ducks.
We visited Fusion and I spoke about serving those in need based on the story of the good Samaritan. They had a number of guests. The worship was charged and Heather brought a prophetic song -- their is nothing as satisfying as entering God's presence.
Both Heather and I enjoyed our time with Tim & Chloe and felt a connection with them. I was amazed at how much they had done considering Tim has a 60 hour work week and Chloe is a full time Mom looking after 2 energetic kids. Keep up the good work guys!
Heather and I will be praying about Chicago and talking with other leaders to see what God might have in mind. Please pray for Fusion. Watch this space ...
China went from 1.5 to 90 million Christians in the last 40 years [ref]
Christianity in Vietnam grew 600% over the last decade [ref]
In the last 100 years Korea went from 1% to 40% Christian [ref]
In the last 100 years Africa went from 9% to 55% Christian [ref]
Churches benefit society because:
Church volunteers give over $6 billion to charities each year [ref]
In the last 30 years church volunteers helped build houses for over 1 million low income people [ref]
Couples who consistently relate to a church have the lowest divorce risk [ref]. Kids raised inside marriage disproportionately have better health, education & suffer less from substance abuse & violence [ref]
Church volunteers helping prisoners complete faith programs dramatically reduces re-incarceration to 8%, vs. non-completes 36.3% [ref]
Youth with high church involvement have lower rates of serious crime than those from "good areas" [ref]
Churches support over 4,000 crisis pregnancy centers [ref]
Matt: Born Nov 16, ‘79 in Brighton, England. Moved to KC August ‘04 to marry Heather. Jobs range from a grocery store, call center, small web design firm, self-employed designer, large advertising agency as a web designer, email marketing specialist & interactive researcher. Matt served Grace Church leadership, Grace youth, ONEBLAZE (youth ministry) & completing Trilogy (3 year leadership training). He has created numerous websites, a movie & written songs on a joint album. His top 3 bands are the Foo Fighters, Oasis & ASH. Matt is lively, serious, fun, driven, creative & focused.
Heather: Born Nov 25, ‘81 in Manhattan, Kansas. Lived in Bedford England ‘02-‘03. On Nov 29, ‘07 Matt & Heather welcomed Jones Dalton into the world. Work range from a grocery store, golf course, bridal shop, Starbucks, a self-employed photographer & freelance writer. Heather has been serving the youth of Grace Church & ONEBLAZE. She successfully completed Trilogy (higher grades than Matt!). Heather loves creative writing, photography, home decorating & fashion. Her favorite artists are Norah Jones & Alicia Keys. She is lively, energetic, friendly, creative & too many things to mention.